The single best way churches can help build strong marriages is to help people select the right person to marry. Neil Warren has noted, based on extensive research, that the choice of who you will marry will have a bigger impact on your marriage than all the work you do on it after you get married! His book, Finding the Love of your Life, remains the single best resource I know for people thinking about marrrying. Some critical steps to help people think through: –Get healthy before you get married –Don’t get married too young –Don’t get married too soon –Every similarity is like money in the bank. (This is so true that even couples who differ more than 15 IQ points are more likely to get divorced than IQ-compatible couples!)

John Ortberg on the how the church can help marriages not end in divorce.