Great Coaching Questions for Your Next Adventure

Seth Godin continues to be one of my provocateurs. His short blog posts raise more questions than they answer. Below are several questions he raised over with someone getting started in a new business. These are excellent coaching questions for any of us.

A few things came up over coffee the other day. His idea is good, his funding is solid, there are many choices. Some of the questions that don’t usually get asked:

  • Are you aware of your cash flow? …
  • Are you trying to build profit or equity? …
  • What’s your role? …
  • Are you trying to build a team? …
  • Which kind of risk is okay with you? …
  • And finally, and most important, why? Why are you doing this at all?

Check out his original post with his commentary on “Question for a New Entrepreneur.”

James Bryan Smith on Becoming an Apprentice to Jesus

James Bryan Smith offered insights into becoming an apprentice to Jesus at The Renovare Conference in 2010. Take a listen to how one “Makes the Jesus Way My Way.”

  1. Deconstructing/Reconstructing Discipleship as Apprenticeship to Jesus
  2. Apprentice Principles
  3. Apprentice Practices
  4. Applying Apprentice: Implementing in Personal and Congregational Life

I am now reading with my Sunday School class Smith’s three book series (The Good and Beautiful God, The Good and Beautiful Life, and The Good and Beautiful Community) that describes this apprenticeship. I commend the series that will help you learn a new life story, develop truly life giving practices, and develop a community of like-minded and practiced souls empowered by the Holy Spirit to become citizens of God’s soon-coming and already-arriving kingdom.

Know how much you owe!

In order to rid yourself of your personal debt you must first face the reality of that debt. I track our family’s in Quicken and celebrate every step toward being able to shout “We’re debt free.”

A recent study from the Federal Reserve Bank of New York suggests that the consumers who hold credit cards and the lenders who issue them often have very different ideas about how much the cardholders owe. The average household believes they hold about $4,700 of credit card debt or 66 percent of the $7,134 lenders — the ones in a position to enforce — say households carry.

via HuffingtonPost

Creating a life plan is not easy

  • Recruit a life plan accountability partner. If you want to finish your life plan and make sure you actually implement it, recruit an accountability partner (see Ecclesiastes 4:9, 10). The best option is a coach who is trained in life planning. The next best option is a close friend who learns along with you. Regardless, having an accountability partner is an important key to success.
  • Regard your life plan as a work in process. Don’t shoot for perfect—that day will never come. Instead, complete your first draft and assume it is a living document. You will revise it as necessary, always fine-tuning, always tweaking.
  • Recognize the season you are in. Are you in a spring, summer, fall, or winter season? It makes a difference. You may not be able to do what I do. I may not be able to do what you do. The critical thing is to each be doing what we should be doing in this season of our lives, focusing on what matters most now.
  • Leaning into the future which is intended for you is not easy AND discovering, discerning, creating, and implementing that plan will bring you the greatest joy of your life. I will be glad to assist you as you work your life plan.

    what scripture teaches us about fasting

    Fasting is a spiritual discipline mentioned in the Old Testament:

    ” … and they fasted that day, …” 1 Sam 7:6
    ” … and they mourned and wept and fasted until evening.” 2 Sam 1:12
    ” … and proclaimed a fast throughout all Judah.” 2 Chron 20:3
    ” … Then I proclaimed a fast there at the river of Ahava.” Ezra 8:21
    ” … I was fasting and…

    Fasting is mentioned in scripture … (via Simply Orthodox)

    Dallas Willard offers wisdom with John Ortberg

    CATALYST PODCAST

    EPISODE 124

    Dallas Willard and John Ortberg

    On this annual Catalyst West Roadtrip Episode, listen in on a conversation between Dallas Willard and John Ortberg from Catalyst West one year ago in 2010. Plus some helpful tips on making your Catalyst West experience a great one.

    Skip the Catalyst bantering to 17:45 to hear the conversation. The following quotes from Dallas Willard are worth pondering (the times are indicated for your convenience).

    • Thesis of THE SPIRIT OF THE DISCIPLINES: “Authentic transformation really is possible if we are willing to do one thing, that is, to rearrange our lives around those practices that Jesus engaged in in order to receive life and power from the Father” (19:00).
    • The church is not getting right at this time: The gospel is not the minimal amount to get into heaven after you die. “The gospel is about how to get into heaven before you die.” Jesus preached the availability of the Kingdom of God to everyone right here, right now (22:00).
    • The effect of the kingdom of God is God in action. This is grace! Grace is not a synonym for the forgiveness of sin. Grace is for life, not just forgiveness. Grace enables us to live with God as a part of our lives. The sinner does not use much grace. The saint uses grace like a 747 on takeoff because everything they do is the result of grace (24:00).
    • “Grace is God acting in your life to accomplish what you cannot accomplish on your own.” (27:30)
    • How should we think about heaven: “Think of heaven as God’s presence (i.e. grace).”
    • Thinking about spiritual disciplines: “Grace is not opposed to effort. Grace is opposed to earning. Effort is action while earning is attitude.” Spiritual disciplines are those things we do to enable us to do that which cannot do by direct effort (e.g. we need discipline to learn a foreign language). “Discipline is essentially practice” (30:00).
    • There is a difference between trying to do something and training to do something. If at first you don’t succeed, fix what went wrong and then try again (32:00).
    • The place to start on the spiritual journey is “to do the next right thing you think you ought to do” (33:00).
    • The spiritual disciplines are not deeds of righteousness. They are wisdom. So you should approach them experimentally (34:30).
    • If you undertake a spiritual discipline and fail it is not a sin (38:00).

    Sabbath Keeping as joy and delight, not obligation and burden. Dan Allender sets a feast!

    Dan Allender’s SABBATH (Thomas Nelson, 2009) is an invitation to practices that truly brings life. He first concedes that except for a few providential moments he may not be the person to write this text. Like many, in his drive to be successful in the hectic and harried world of academia, he let Sabbath practice fall by the wayside. Those moments, encounters across the world, a family emergency, and being lost in a sabbatical led to a changed heart. The book is part of a larger work from Thomas Nelson, The Ancient Practices Series, which seeks to reintroduce and reinvigorate the traditional spiritual disciplines of the church. To that end Allender succeeds.

    First, restoring Sabbath practice in a 24/7 web of connectivity seems like an endless and possibly fruitless battle. In my life I am only returning in later years to the life-giving practice of setting aside a day to rest in order to give meaning and energy to my work. Allender would commend my tentative steps and then he would introduce me to a larger Sabbath practice filled with sensuous delights, a time set-apart for God and family, a feast to be shared, and finally a day to play in God’s presence. Allender never points to the Proverbs 8:30 where Wisdom celebrates God’s unfolding creation and seems, like a young child, saying “do it again” as creation unfolds, but the wonder of Sabbath is on display throughout the book. Allender states that “Sabbath is the day that holds together the beginning of time and the end; it is the intersection of the past and the future that opens a window into eternity each week” (p. 49). The simple practice of pausing every seven days leads us to pay attention to the larger unfolding of God’s redemptive work coming to consummation in an endless Sabbath.

    Then, Sabbath practice is grounded in the playful moments when division gives way to shalom, destitution surrenders to abundance, and despair yields to joy. These chapters yield a series of probing questions that will coach you as you deepen your practice. “How would you live if there were no wars, enmity, battle lines, or need to defend, explain, interpret, or influence another so see anything differently” (p. 110)? “If we were to pray today for our enemies, who do you most hope to be united with on this earth? And who do you most hope not to see in heaven” (p. 111)? “What would give you the greatest sense of the abiding goodness of the Father’s arms” (p. 112)? Allender’s chapter on despair surrendering to joy needs a moment of caution attached to it. He has obviously enjoyed a good cigar, a fine glass of wine, and wholesome beer on his journey. The onset of diabetes has limited his ability to enjoy this rituals. As a pastor I offer a caution to those whose sensitivities would see these practices as insensitive to the intent of Sabbath. I personally think Allender is right to point us to the take real delights of all of our senses.

    Finally, Allender moves us embrace the biblical vision of Sabbath: a remembering of the need for Sabbath after centuries of slavery in Egypt, the deliberate pause to listen for the still small voice, and reminding ourselves of God’s justice raining down on world thirsty for restitution and redemption. Here he offers a variety of practices, thoughts about ways to allow the scriptures to breath new life into us, and reminders of the God’s provision of welcoming all to the Sabbath as a matter of justice (“remember that you were slaves in Egypt” – Deuteronomy 5:15). Somehow sitting at the Sunday buffet and enjoying a feast with others within the church while others buzz about us caring for our needs hollows out Sabbatical intent. These last chapters contain many helpful thoughts that would reduce Sabbath practice to a series of rules, something many have chafed at throughout their lives. I think spending the first two-thirds of the book helping us learn to delight and play in the presence of God, family, and community should help us answer the question: “Do we really believe that Sabbath delight is God’s heart for us? Are we willing to silence the rabble of idols and foul spirits to hear the intoxicating joy of God” (p. 193)? Buy this book, ponder its Sabbath questions, engage God’s heart on a weekly basis, take time to stop and stand between the no longer and the not yet. You will be glad to find Sabbath taking up residence in your being.

    Disclosure of Material Connection: I received a copy of SABBATH mentioned above for free in the hope that I would mention it on my blog. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

    Struggling with God’s purpose for your life? Mark Batterson’s SOULPRINT will help you find the way.

    Mark Batterson states in SOULPRINT that as a former athlete “the older I get, the better I was” (59). And of course I want to laugh at him, but I know myself too well. I may not have been that high school jock, but I have those touchstones in my life where “the better I was” seems superior to “the me I am.” Batterson challenges us to face this reality head on and decide that “the better I was” and “the me that I am” are nothing compared to what God wants for me. Through the story of David, Israel’s great king and poet, he reminds each of us that “we are God’s masterpiece, created anew in Christ Jesus, so that we can do the good things God planned for us long ago” (Ephesians 2:10, NLT).

    David’s journey is marked by moments of decision: do I wear King Saul’s armor or trust my experience with stones and a sling, do I trust that my present skills with a sling and harp for future will honor God and bless people in the future, am I marking moments of victory by carrying Goliath’s armor (all 125 pounds of it) with me wherever I go, am I becoming the person others or God wants me to be, can I use moments of crazy embarrassing dancing for God’s glory or be mired in fear, will I allow God to take my weakness and sinfulness and use it for glorious purposes, and finally, can I trust God will establish in me a legacy with plan and purpose? These questions mark the journey that Mark Batterson takes us on in SOULPRINT … along the way he sprinkles in marvelous moments of God’s grace permeating the lives of Jesus followers across the centuries.

    The heart of Soulprint is found in five chapters. The first three are positive steps for discovering moments in your personal past where a God destiny was being birthed. Do not glide quickly past these chapters and pay careful attention to the creation of a life altar to mark these moments for yourself and others around you. As I continue to pay attention to appreciative moments and character strengths in myself and others I especially found Batterson’s two chapters on dealing with embarrassment and sinfulness to be gems. I remember moments when I was made the fool and now I realize how those moments also set me free from the fear of failure. Realizing how God can take my biggest moral failures, which often arose out of my greatest personal strengths, and forgive me and set me free for future work is a tremendous healing for me.

    Included in SOULPRINT is a good seven session study guide and the opening chapter of PRIMAL, another great book by Mark Batterson. Find the first chapter of SOULPRINT here and a videoclip here. This book is a definite buy!

    Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

    Samuel Chand’s CRACKING YOUR CHURCH’S CULTURE CODE reminds us of what we already know (and often forget) about organizations

    One of my mentors encouraged me to launch my ministry in every church with a study of John’s letters to the seven churches of Asia Minor. I baulked at opening ministry with I percieved as a can of worms and then something hit me. These letters were written to the angels of the seven churches! Intuitively I knew that every organization I had worked with had a sense, an ethos, that was often hard to get a handle on and yet crucial to its function (or dysfunction!). My mentor was inviting me to pay attention to that ethos as I envisioned ministry in a new setting.

    Samuel Chand’s recent book, Cracking Your Church’s Culture Code: Seven Keys to Unleashing Vision and Inspiration (Jossey-Bass, 2011), has brought greater clarity to my intuitive hunches about a church’s ethos. Chand quickly challenges the reader to understand that culture is king when it comes to leading an organization. Your leadership has less sway than the inspiring or toxic culture that you swim in within your church. The unnoticed and unexamined cultural code will rise up to challenge every change needed by the organization, so pay attention to Chand’s discerning exercises for revealing and changing the code for multiplied benefits. He uses the acronym CULTURE (control, undersanding, leadership, trust, unafraid, responsive, and execution) to help the reader think broadly about the cultural ethos of their organization.

    The heart of the book centers on the chapters “Vocabulary Defines Culture” and “Change Starts with Me.” Our vocabulary shapes the environment which we lead. If we describe everything in negative terms, then we find negative results. I have learned that the opposite is true as well. Chand helped me understand that I have to examine every piece and source of communication for the words that hold an organization from realizing its potential. The culture code is strong and must be addressed on multiple fronts honest communication, deep listening, naming the unknown in “some people say,” and offering real affirmations as the church moves forward. The challenging reminder that I can only change myself is braced by a helpful section on how to leave gracefully when your gifts and strengths are not aligned with that of the organization’s cultural code. This section of the book is pure gold and I wish I had read it sooner!

    Cracking Your Church’s Culture Code should be required reading for every pastor. And pastors should pass their copy on to other leaders in their congregations. Every community, business, enterprise, and organization has a “culture code” and not paying attention to the code inevitably leads to ruin.

    Disclosure of Material Connection: I received the above book for free in the hope that I would mention it on my blog. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”